In a small bowl, combine all ingredients for the marinade. Place chicken wings in glass bowl and cover with marinade. Marinate for 30 minutes or up to 2 hours in refrigerator, covered. While chicken marinates, make the cabbage slaw. Combine the slaw ingredients and mix together in a large bowl. In a separate bowl, whisk all dressing ingredients. Set both bowls aside.
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Place chicken wings on parchment-lined baking sheet, reserving marinade and cooking wings for 15-20 minutes until charred a bit, turning occasionally. While wings are cooking, pour reserved marinade in a sauce pan over medium heat and reduce until thickened. Brush sauce over cooked wings.
Arrange wings on a platter with slaw that has been tossed with a portion of the dressing, reserving some in a side bowl for dipping the wings. Garnish with sesame seeds, scallions and chopped peanuts if desired. Serves 6 to 8.